Monday, May 6, 2013

Should you keep going when nothing EVER seems to go right?

     Everybody can deal with occasional disappointments. We know disappointments are a part of life. But how do you deal with disappointments when they are seemingly endless. You know what it's like. You keep fighting and fighting and battling through—and what's your reward? More battles to fight.
     I have no easy answer for this one. If you're looking for one from me you can quit reading now.
     When things are going against you endlessly, you can do one of two things:
  1. Give up.
  2. Keep fighting
     And I'm not sure either one of those options are particularly appealing. It's kind of like you want to say: "Uh, could I please have a third choice."
     Now, remember, we're talking things going endlessly against you, like they're never going to turn around. If it's just a tough stretch, then #2 is your easy choice. But endlessly going against you, you've got to give #1 a fair hearing anyway. Because we're not here to be tortured by endless disappointment. What would be the point of that? No, we have intelligence and dignity enough to turn down that scenario.
     But it's like I said earlier, I have no easy answers for this one.


  1. Nichiren Buddhists have a saying that "winter always turns to spring." Sometimes it takes a very long time to overcome an obstacle. One can fail again, again and again, but if you look closely sometimes very small changes appear even though the outcome is the same. Those minute changes are a sign to have hope. The Buddhists also talk about a journey to a wonderful city taking 10,000 steps, but if you stop at 9,900 you will not get there. You have to go the whole distance. Maybe you can tell if it is not meant to be if you don't get those minute signs.

  2. Another fantastic comment, Andrea. Thank you.

  3. You have a point but, what if that winter was from childhood to adulthood. You've have been fighting for YEARS, how can one say so easily that winter can turn to summer.

  4. I don't think you can. It's like a lot of life: uncertain, ambiguous. There's no concrete answer. At least that's my take.

  5. Fall seven times. Stand up eight-Japanese Proverb


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