What matters isn't being applauded when you arrive—for that is common—but being missed when you leave.—Baltasar GracianNewspaper columnist David Brooks wrote a book called The Road to Character. In it he talks about the difference between 'resume virtues' vs. 'eulogy virtues.' In other words, what are people going to say about you when you're gone?
People won't comment on your business prowess or your bank account. Nobody is going to say how good-looking or clever you were. But they will talk about the decency you had and the kindness you showed others.
It's hard to think about eulogy virtues while we're here. Life is tough. It's a scramble to survive.
But this life is going to end.
Not to be morbid but yeah, it's going to end. Then when it does, what do you want to be remembered for?
Billy Casper, one of the greatest golfers of all time, winner of the U.S. Open and Masters, was interviewed shortly before his death in February 2015. Reading the article you got the feeling that the interviewer was so impressed with Casper's golfing career, and when he asked what Casper wanted to be remembered for, he suggested this golfing feat or that great golfing victory. But Casper surprised.
He said he didn't want to be remembered for any of that. He wanted to be remembered for being a lover of humanity.
So what do you want to be remembered for? If you can figure that out now, you can live in a way that brings that desire to pass.