Saturday, March 2, 2013

When people dis you online.

     We've all had it happen. People dis you when you've done absolutely nothing to them or anything to merit it. Of course, the temptation is to rip them right back. And that is the last thing you want to do. Instead, you can take their dis as a compliment. (Yes, you read that right.)
     Because it is a compliment. People who dis you for no reason see something in you that they lack. Perhaps you're moving up in your field of endeavor. Perhaps you're friendly and they're not. Whatever the reason, unjustified, nonconstructive criticism is nothing but an acknowledgment that you're doing something very right.

     None of this of course means that criticism doesn't hurt. It does! But like most things in life, if you look hard enough, you can find a benefit in it.
     Consider this:

There are countless examples of critics who try to destroy the dreams of ambitious men and women. But critics are a necessary part of our social system in America— they screen out those who lack the courage and resolve to take criticisms and triumph in spite of them. (From The Millionaire Mind by Thomas J. Stanley.)

     So it's up to you. Are you going to let the criticism knock you out of the game, or are you going to use it as a springboard to success?
     All great people have encountered massive amounts of criticism  As the saying goes, only the tallest trees draw lightning strikes and the buffeting of the storm. The small trees are safe, and small, cocooned in the middle of the forest.
     So, are you a tall or a small tree?
     Should you retaliate when someone disses you? Never. Which is not to say you don't always respond. Online reputations are important. Sometimes a calm, intelligent rebuttal is absolutely necessary. But for the most part, ignore the bastards. People know who you are and what you've done. They know if the criticism is unfair. Don't stoop to your critics' level. Don't attack them as they've attacked you  That's what they want: you to come down to their level. Then they can say, 'See, I was right about them!'
     No, let the small trees be. Let them stew in their pathetic petty little world. It's punishment enough to have to be them. You, my friend, keep growing into a majestic Redwood and tower on, unperturbed, knowing that transcending criticism is one of the prices of greatness.

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